I visited Michael Bunker's A Process Driven Life blog and read, for the 3rd or so time now, the post on Too Much Play. All I can say is OUCH. And dear husband, you should read it too. We can sit here and OUCH together on the phone later.
If that doesn't sum up my family, I don't know what does. That is my eldest son to a tee, much to my shame as his mother. If he isn't texting -- seriously, unless he is talking to the phone people about a problem with his service, he never puts the phone to his ear at all...it's all fingers flying in text messages. His fiance is the same way. Then, after work, it's gets worse. They have the phones in one hand texting, toss it into their laps and then grab the video this or that to play with. Non-stop. 24/7. The only 'break' if you can even call it that, is when they put one down to grab hold of the other..
Let me say this clearly. There is no greater harm you can do to your child than to park them in front of a movie or a game during the day so you can work.The product of the modern view of “play” is all around us. Dumb, stunted, functionally illiterate socialites with phones stuck to their heads (or worse, mobile texting other “kids”) all day are all around us everywhere you go. Listen, some of the men in our group sometimes have to go work with 20-something “kids” today. They say that it is common for these modern man-children to wake up late and then spend most of their work time stuck to a phone, either talking or texting, as if they are some important lawyer or doctor!
Yes, I raised him. We started off right, and we did have work more than play or 'free' time, but somewhere along the line we started listening to grandparents and family members and friends and allowed more and more play instead. Poor children today have so many chores....yeah, right. I'm an idiot. Plain and simple. I created the "man-child" that leads the lineage of this family.
See where our Boot Camp comes into play? I don't want another grown-up child leaving my nest and bringing my parental skills to shame. I'm watching that product develop in the next in line as it is. I want it stopped.
So, after kicking myself a hundred more times with that article, I ran across another thought to mull around...
I believe more than ever it's time we become proficient at doing things for ourselves and not relying so much on the system to provide the most basics of our needs. Like canning food. It's one thing to raise some food it's another thing to preserve it for future use. (Log Cabin Homestead)
With world financial markets reeling, Mr. Paulson said, he was following up an emergency meeting Friday of finance ministers from the traditional Group of Seven industrial powers — Britain, France, Canada, Germany, Japan, Italy and the United States — with a larger gathering Saturday of the so-called Group of 20, which includes China, India, Russia and Brazil.
The meeting was designed to "coordinate [policies] to lessen the effects of global market turmoil and the economic slowdown on all of our countries," Mr. Paulson said.
Before the meeting, President Bush issued a plea for nations to work together to address the crisis, avoiding the go-it-alone protectionist trade strategies that worsened conditions during the Great Depression.
"In an interconnected world, no nation will gain by driving down the fortunes of another. We are in this together. We will come through it together," Mr. Bush said during an appearance in the Rose Garden after a private White House meeting with ministers and officials from nearly a dozen nations and international organizations. (The Washington Times)
Yes, it's from October 12th, but that makes no difference.
I don't want an 'interconnected world'. That whole idea scares me. Not that I am a scholar of the End Times, or the Book of Revelation at all, but I know enough to know what's in there and it scares me to think...no, KNOW...that it is coming, it's here. I suppose I have no need to be scared really...God has not given me a spirit of fear. Still, it's all coming to pass, every word and idea of it, and I look around me at the community I live in, the general population of the world today, and it scares me.
No one thinks anything of it. No one thinks we are moving toward anything to be concerned with. Oh sure, some bemoan the loss of jobs to overseas corporations and such, but if we are in an 'interconnected world' what difference does that make? It won't be US jobs, foreign jobs...it will be our jobs. Everything will be universal. One World. One Leader.
I don't like that idea. So I do what I do. I move in the direction I am. I'm not new to the idea of 'self-sustaining' and such -- I'm just too slow moving. It's another credit to my shame -- I've been pushing the idea of homesteading, of being disconnected from the world around us in at least basic ways, for years. Years. And where am I after these years? I'm sitting here still connected to the umbilical cord of the grid in every aspect. My water flows from it, my lighting and my computer flow from it. My food sources still have many connections. I am still very connected. I shouldn't be. Maybe using it while it's here, but that's not what we are doing. We are not pursuing alternatives for the things that seemingly make us tick.
My gardening is a fiasco down here in this red clay muck I live on. Boo-hoo. Build up the soil and put on the big girl bloomers and get over it. If we truly fell apart today, we'd last but a short time with the stock I have in place. And while I have seeds for future garden efforts, I don't have a lick of decent soil built up for it. It's all in vain. I talk the talk but I'm not walking the walk.
My children know virtually nothing of a survival mentality. I doubt they even put enough trust in The Lord when times get tough. More credit to my shame list. I am not parenting as I should. And it's not from a lack of knowledge on my part -- I've read several parenting points of view, I've watched the fruit of those views come to pass and I've seen what works and what doesn't in the flesh, not only with my own children, but with others as well. It's hardly rocket science -- it's plain and simple Biblical aptitude really. God already laid the foundations for us as parents. We -- I -- am just too lazy to follow the advice given me in His Words.
So I perpetuate the cycle of ignorance/laziness and cry when it comes back to smack me in the face.
I am resolved...I am deeply moved to action in this...I have to make the changes that I know are needed in my family. Even if I have to walk in them alone. I need to be prepared for the future we can all clearly see is coming. I need a stocked pantry and it had best be enough to truly sustain us for a good length of time, and it must be something I have the ability, on my own homestead, to replenish and build.
I must educate my children in Spiritual Truths and do it with a sincere heart and a true knowledge. Just reading this or that Scripture isn't going to do it. Listening to the man of the world teaching from my pulpit isn't going to do it. These children, this portion of future, was gifted me in order for me to make a difference from the world around me. I am failing at that miserably and I truly feel time for correction is quickly running out for me...for all of us.
I need to get the skills in place that will sustain my homestead for the future and what it might bring. That isn't going to happen with all these umbilical cords I have here. I can use what grid I have, certainly, but I am not going to gather skills by reading about them and not putting them into practice daily. It is in the daily work that I will gather the necessary skills I need.
Here I sit with a cookstove and it's just an ornament in my dining room. It should have been left where it was unless I was prepared to get the stove pipe in place and begin putting it to practical use. I don't even know the proper way to chop my wood...of course, I don't have any wood, but that's another issue altogether.
I have a great sewing machine, but it requires electricity. What will I do when I don't have that luxury? When it's priced out of my reach as a simple homesteader without wordly connections? I have a treadle here...just not very good at using it. I sew like a monkey using his feet on that thing...no pun intended there. What am I waiting for? God isn't likely to sit down in my sewing room and give me a lesson on sewing now is He?
There are so many practical things I should already have in place, just common sense things that will make a great difference in daily living once the umbilical cords are gone from my grasp. Yet here I sit...typing away, bemoaning my lot in life more of less. I don't like whiners. Never have. yet look at me...I am one. I have a handful of excuses I pull out when needed. Whiner. I much prefer action.
And that is what I intend to do. That is my resolution. I am tossing out my excuses and making a steady effort toward pure action in my life, on my homestead. If I don't, we won't be any better off than the next guy on the street. I don't want that. I don't think God wants that of His Children.
See the sorts of things that roll around my mind when given a chance?